It is crucial for our well-being to love certain people from a distance. This means that we love them without harboring any ill intentions. Our feelings toward them are always positive, yet by distance, I mean we should maintain a certain level of separation in terms of connection, availability, and access to the realms of our mind, soul, and heart. These are the individuals who create chaos due to their unsolvable issues, generated out of an inability to handle them and the fabrication of demons through fear and self-made assumptions.
Failing to do so results in making our lives miserable, especially when emotional imbalance takes control of our minds.
The initial challenge is that we often do not understand our preferences and inherent inclinations. This implies the types of likes and dislikes encoded in our DNA. I believe that our affinity towards something, a place, or a person is predetermined in our genetic makeup. We cannot force its development, regardless of the emotional pressures imposed on us. We cannot dislike what we naturally like, and we cannot like something that goes against our innate code. Here, I will conclude.
This is why we have diverse likes. We are drawn to numerous people, places, and things, which can be of the same or different types. We do not like everything, every place, or every person.
The same holds true for others, as they are born with distinct preferences. Each person will have different tastes and parameters to establish standards of likes and dislikes. Though overlaps may occur at times, creating unions, it is not possible for an absolute 100% match. There will always be 1% differences among two human beings.
Returning to the concept of loving at a distance, we must define and understand the parameters upon which our standards are based. Subsequently, we can identify the likeness of people and things. Let us be numerical and state that if something overlaps with us by any percentage above 50%, it is acceptable. This is how we can maintain personal space and keep people in different spheres around us.
After defining this, we must seek love deliberately. Love does not happen automatically. We often confuse our likeness, with an overlap of more than 50%, with love. However, true love is never automatic. If it were love rather than mere likeness, we would never feel comfortable once it is gone.
Love is always an investment of emotions, time, energy, positive sentiments, and various other factors. We never love something we dislike, but we can love something that aligns with our parameters of maximum likeness. Many people do not empirically define this, leading them to perceive it as an automatic process. However, behind the scenes, everything is numerically calculated. Our lack of awareness does not negate this fact. Likeness and emotional investment are interlinked; we invest and continue to invest until it grows beyond a point of no return.
If detachment occurs, we experience sadness and a broken heart. The love-based investment goes to waste, resulting in emotional loss that we regret and feel pain over. The lower the investment, the lower the pain of regret and loss.
I will now connect likeness and a broken heart. Even after our heart breaks, we cannot hate people, things, and places. The intrinsic and innate likeness encoded in our DNA cannot be destroyed, just as the DNA itself cannot be destroyed.
Numerically speaking, maintaining personal space becomes essential, and a threshold of 50% likeness serves as a practical guideline. This percentage reflects an acceptable overlap for coexistence without compromising individual well-being. Moreover, the inherent diversity in human preferences ensures that a perfect 100% match is unattainable, leaving room for at least 1% differences between individuals.
In the realm of emotions, the concept of deliberate love underscores the numerical precision involved. Love, being an investment, operates on a calculated basis. Likeness, surpassing the 50% threshold, often leads to confusion between mere affinity and genuine love. The awareness of this numerical aspect highlights the need for conscious efforts in seeking and sustaining love.
The emotional consequences of detachment are also subject to a numerical evaluation. The degree of emotional investment directly correlates with the intensity of sadness and heartbreak. Lower investments result in proportionally reduced pain of regret and loss. This numerical perspective sheds light on the intricacies of human emotions and relationships, emphasizing the quantitative aspects often overlooked in matters of the heart.