DATE: 25/03/2023
5:17 am
The concept that “age is just a number” is misleading. Age is not just a marker of time—it is a biological and psychological journey that deeply shapes a person’s life and personality. As we age, the impact of these changes becomes more apparent, especially after the age of 25. This period marks a significant shift, particularly in women, where emotional and psychological complexity increases, making it harder to trust someone’s true self. Why? After 25, the ability to emotionally and psychologically manipulate becomes more refined. A woman often presents a role—rather than her authentic identity.
After 25, a woman begins to play roles that are shaped by the emotional and psychological needs of the person she is engaging with. Over time, she learns what a particular man requires—what he desires, how he thinks, and what emotional state he is in. The woman adapts and presents herself in a way that meets these needs, but this behaviour is distinct from her true self. The true person behind these roles remains hidden, and you may never know who she really is unless she chooses to reveal her authentic self.
These roles can vary greatly depending on the man she is interacting with. For one man, she may be a confidante or counsellor; for another, she could be a partner, a supporter, or even take on the role of a teacher or student. The way she presents herself shifts dramatically depending on the individual and their needs.
When playing these roles, a woman may appear to be the perfect female friend, someone who seems ideal for a potential partner. A man, captivated by her apparent perfection, may fall in love, believing her loving, caring, and kind words are a natural part of her personality. However, these qualities are actually part of the “role” she is playing. They are not necessarily reflective of her true self, but rather the script she has learned to follow. Many men fall into this trap due to a lack of psychological and biological awareness.
As she ages, typically between 27 and 32, her true identity starts to emerge. At this stage, she may still appear mature and caring, but beneath the surface, she might be fragile or even toxic. At this age, she may start revealing who she truly is, shedding the role she’s been playing. This is when the reality sets in—the woman you thought you knew may no longer be the woman you married.
In contrast, a woman under 25 is still closer to her natural self, untainted by the complexities that come with age and biological shifts. Before 25, she had not yet experienced the hormonal and emotional changes that influence women over 25. As such, a woman under 25 is more likely to be genuine, without the manipulative roles that come with ageing. You can trust that who she is at 22 or 24 is who she really is—there is no “mask.”
The biological “alarm clock” begins to ring after 27 and becomes more pronounced with each passing year. This is when the role-playing becomes more ingrained, and it can grow stronger as she matures. A woman under 25 does not yet experience these shifts in the same way. They are still closer to their authentic selves, making relationships with women under 25 feel more natural and true.
When you marry a woman based on the “roles” played after 25—whether at 27 or 30—there is a risk that, once the marriage is secured and she feels safe, her true self will emerge. She may shed the role she had been playing, revealing a side of her that is unfamiliar, and it could affect the relationship for years to come. The role-playing that begins with age and biological changes is a reality that cannot be ignored. Just as menstruation and other biological systems follow a definitive age, so too does the psychological shift that comes with growing older.